More often than not, we’re too hard on ourselves. We compare where we are in life to others who are in vastly different places, and then beat ourselves up for not being there yet. We look at negative outcomes as failures instead of lessons or opportunities. We don’t give ourselves enough credit for what we have accomplished, or what our talents are.
I’m terribly guilty of all these points, and more. So, when I find articles like this one, it draws me in and I start to really analyze myself (in a positive way). I’ve pulled out a few of the points which spoke to me the most and how I view them. The link to the full article is below – check it out and see how you feel after!
- You stopped caring about what others think of you. This is probably my biggest struggle overall. I’ve wasted so much time worrying about how others view me and making sure I fit into the “proper” mold. Remember this – what others think of you is none of your business.
- You’ve raised your standards. Know your worth, but be humble and realistic about it. At some point, we’ve all settled for something, only to look back and wonder why we allowed ourselves to do that. Which segues well into…
- You’ve learned that setbacks and failure are part of self-growth. When you look back on those times and can actively learn from them is a huge success. Failing at something doesn’t have to be negative, just change your perception and find the lesson – then never do it again 😉
- You may not have as much money as you want but you live a rich life. The feeling is impossible to explain, but from time to time, I just feel so incredibly content, happy, excited, fulfilled, challenged, and blessed. To me, this means I’m living a rich life surrounded by people who bring out these emotions.
- Get rid of the need to please. It’s OK to say “no” to stuff. Make sure you’re happy with your decisions before you commit to them. I’ve always had a hard time saying no to things, for fear the “asker” would judge me negatively. This has resulted in numerous occasions of spreading myself to thin, causing unnecessary stress.
There’s a difference between being motivated to strive for more and never being happy with what you’ve got. Respect where you are in life and what it took to get here, while you set (and reach) new goals!
Focus on each and every success you’ve had – big and small alike. Even the fact that you have the ability to work towards a goal is a success in many ways. Stop looking at the huge picture and appreciate the smaller things around you each day – they likely didn’t just miraculously happen to you, you earned it or made it happen somehow. Success!
Enjoy the full article here – 25 Signs you’re Succeeding at Life